Being Your Ever-Changing Self

You should never let other people determine your happiness. It’s extremely dangerous not to be in charge of your own happiness.

I let other people control my happiness for years. I gave everyone power they didn’t deserve, or want. Someone could say a single thing and I would spiral back into a big black hole. Most of the time they didn’t even mean to hurt my feelings, but once you start being unstable, after a while, everything will knock you over. I took everything as a personal attack and every conversation left me feeling sad and alone. It’s like they say: ‘If you don’t stand for something,  you’ll fall for anything.’

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Vegan Tofu Red Curry Sandwich

Hey all,

I’ve been working on a couple of blog posts but I thought I’d share a recipe with you, first. I don’t always eat bread for lunch but sometimes I like to make myself a nice sandwich with veggies and more. I make a lot of tempeh-tomato-avocado sandwiches but that’s too easy.
Below you’ll find the recipe to one of the sandwiches that I love to make. It’s flavorful, healthy and delicious. It’s relatively easy to make and also makes a great lunch to take with you (the tofu tastes good while still hot but it’s also good when it’s cooled down).

Smile

Smile. Sometimes, just smile for no reason.

It’s strange how this works. Sometimes you need to force your body to smile before you can let your soul do the same.

Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of yoga. Yoga is a way for me to relax, wind down and let go of all the stress and negativity (and, of course, it’s a way of getting in a workout). It’s an amazing thing to incorporate in your life, but that’s not what I want to talk about today.

I’ll probably dedicate another post to yoga, someday soon.
Let’s get back to the point. There are moments when the instructor on the video tells me to smile. I can’t explain it, but when I’m in the midst of my yoga practice – already a somewhat meditation-like practice – and I’m told to smile, it’s like every part of my being smiles. It’s like waking up at 10 in the morning when you’re on vacation. That moment when you open your eyes and the sunlight just comes rushing in, filling you to the brim with light and love and an overwhelming sense of positivity and possibility. I know, it sounds strange, but that’s how great it feels.

Not Knowing

It’s okay not to know things. It’s okay not to have things figured out.

These aren’t things we hear often but I believe they’re true. Living in this western civilization we’re constantly told that we have to have things figured out. We need to know what we want to be when we grow up, we need to know where we want to live, what to study etc. It never ends.
But sometimes you just don’t know. Out society should be more accepting and appreciative of the moments of figuring things out. However long they take.

That’s not to say that we shouldn’t try to figure things out. We definitely should. But we shouldn’t hate ourselves for being busy figuring things out when other people may be much farther along. We should definitely strive to learn more, to figure things out and to grow. It’s just important that we don’t strive for perfection. Perfection is not natural and even though it may seem that some people have the perfect life, no one really does. A perfect life doesn’t exist; everyone deals with struggles, doubts and challenges. And these all come together in moments of not knowing what to do next.

New Year 2018

Hello everyone,

I haven’t been posting a lot on here. Lately I just haven’t really felt inspired.
I always notice that during times when I feel a little off, a little less up-beat and energetic, my inspiration tends to be lost. These last couple of weeks this also made me notice how easy it is to give in to negative feelings and to let them overwhelm and overtake you completely. In a way, it is so much easier to just feel off, to feel bad or sad, than it is to be strong and put in the effort to make yourself happy again,